Relationships

Healthy relationships can bring about a sense of joy, inspiration, support, and comfort.  They can help us keep connected to our world.    The context in which we cultivate our relationships changes depending on time, place, and setting, and these factors can surely impact the quality of our connections.  With that being said, it is also important to recognize that unhealthy relationships can lead to an increase in sadness, stress, and an overwhelming sense of instability.  Below are four areas I often help my clients explore in order to better navigate their relationships.  If you’re struggling with any of these themes, therapy can be a beneficial experience in helping you identify problems, implement solutions, and achieve happiness in your relationships.

Dating  

Are you currently involved in the dating world?  Are you stressed out about the options (or lack of options) you find yourself encountering?  Are you finding that there are not enough “good” ones out there, or that all of the “good” ones are taken?  Are you in a long-term relationship, but are feeling increasingly uncertain about what the future will bring?  Have you recently broken up with your partner, or you have been broken up with, and are struggling to heal and move forward?  

Dating in NYC is not necessarily an easy feat.  If you’d like to explore your path through the dating jungle, therapy can help you discover how certain ingrained patterns can be identified, understood, and adjusted or dispensed with, so that you can achieve your relationship goals for the future.

Marriage  

Are you engaged? A newlywed?  Married for many years?  The relationship we have with our spouse is a primary relationship that can blend with our conceptualization of who we are as individuals.  Do you feel you’ve lost your sense of self or identity since being married?  Are you fighting more with your partner?  Are you struggling with issues related to trust, jealousy, infidelity, or other problems in your marriage?  

If you’ve answered yes to any of the above, therapy can help you understand your own definitions of what marriage means to you, what your needs are, clarify your expectations, as well as navigating communication.

Friendship  

Friendships come in a variety of types.  There are those friendships from elementary, middle, and high school.  The friends you’ve made in college, graduate school, or post-graduate training.  The friends you’ve made at work, or through a chance meeting at an event, party, class … or anywhere else you’ve interacted with some nice, friendly people.  Some friendships grow quickly, while others take more time to develop.  

Are you wondering about the value of your friendships in your life?  Do you think about the shifts in your friendships in a way that is causing you stress and upset?  Have some friends turned into acquaintances, or vice versa, and you are unsure about this new reality?  Do you want to work on some of your friendships, or let some of them go?  What types of friendships are you looking for at this time in your life?  Friendship is a topic that comes up often in my practice, and therapy can help you explore and understand the nature of such relationships.

Family

I often help my clients explore family issues from a Psychodynamic Perspective.  What this means, is that many of our current concerns with family members can be traced back to events (ranging from the very subtle to the very dramatic) that happened long ago, and may be impacting us in ways that we can’t really see or pinpoint on the surface.  Psychodynamic psychotherapy can reveal the many layers of what occurred in the past with regard to a particular family member or family unit, and can help you come to a place of understanding and acceptance about the issues at hand.  

Relationships with family members can be rewarding and fulfilling when there is a healthy balance of communication and support, which can serve as a foundation from which the system can grow and function.  Therapy can help you understand how your family relationships may be impacting your internal dynamic with yourself, with others, and with your relation to the world.

 

Curious to learn more?  Here are some of my recent articles on Dating and Friendship in The Huffington Post.

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